Friday, December 12, 2008

Emotional Drama Queen has left the building.

It is two days after a failed court date and I am emotionally strong again. At least I think I am. I just had a rough few days.

First let me say, thank you to all of you that left the amazing comments of support. It helped me out so much! I also got a few personal emails and I am afraid I may have unintentionally discouraged people from adoption due to how emotional I was in my last post after we did not pass court. If I have discouraged anyone, please read below:

I am sad about the court delay in our case but we have a relinquished child and they seem to be a little more challenging from what I have read lately on other blogs than the abandoned cases. They are not requesting a new document as I have read on a lot of blogs, the courts want the birth mom to appear in court again. She already appeared in court over 3 months ago with witnesses to relinquish all her rights so I don’t know why they want her to appear again, but that is the court’s decision. From what our agency says, they sometimes request this and other times not. I do not want to discourage people from adopting or getting relinquished babies, they need homes too but I do want to keep it “Real” as far as expectations go. I also want to say that when we pass court and get our little sweet pea, every moment will have been worth it and I wouldn’t change a thing knowing now what I didn’t know when we started the adoption process.

Do not be swayed by my emotional rant on my blog about not passing court when it comes to your decision about adopting. I just had an emotional day. Court delays can happen in any country or agency.

I do think that we should all keep the Ethiopia Adoption program and Governments/Court system in our prayers as well as other countries so that more orphans can have forever families. In closing, GOD is BIGGER than any courts! I know I will have my sweet pea soon!

Thank you for all your support! I am so happy for all of you who have just brought your babies home and I am stalking your blog to find out more. I am also thinking about the rest of you that are waiting for referrals and gathering the paperwork for your dossier.



Lori S said...

I don't feel like you said anything that would discourage others thinking about adoption. You are passionate about bringing your baby home and loving and caring for her. There is nothing wrong with that--that is a momma's love!
I am glad you are feeling better. I really hope this time passes quickly for you!
God Bless!

coffeemom said...

I'm so sorry. This is just so hard and you are right: Adoption is NOT for the faint of heart. Nor is parenting. It's not for sissies! But clearly, you are strong. The perfect mom for this child and we are praying for you and for the birthmom and will continue. Hang in there. M

Mona said...

I'm so sorry you have to wait another month for your court date. I was also be discouraged and sad. I am STILL waiting for my referral. Maybe it will come soon and we will be able to travel together to pick our babies. I am praying for both of us.

Lisa said...

Oh, gosh, I'm so sorry this has happened! You are handling it all so well & I'm certain anyone reading your thoughts will only take away your sense of courage, grace and faith.
Lisa C.

Lori said...

You're a strong woman and this too shall pass. I hate saying trite things like that but it's so darn true... Timing is never wrong, who knows why sometimes, just keep trusting!


dan and rachel said...

boy, amber, if anyone is scared off by adoption based on your last post i would say they are not ready to adopt!!! it wasn't that dramatic! i'm sure that was very disappointing! understatement. :)

keeping you in my thoughts and prayers!

sparkz said...

Do you have another date yet? I bet that was very disappointing. I feel so bad for your entire situation. I can't image how hard it has to be on the mom and then how hard on your family. Very sad.

Zack and Rebecca Caldwell said...

Dear Amber,
I was so sorry to hear about your failed court date....I know your pain, as we failed also our first time. It is so hard. We are praying for your family, and praying that God will strengthen you with each day.

Rebecca and Andrew said...

Hi Amber,
I found your blog through Tania and Sabah. I'm so sorry to hear about your first court date. I'll be praying that Jan. 22 gets here soon for you.
Our court date is Dec. 29 and we are nervous as one of our children was relinquished. Like you, our daughter's birth mama showed up several months ago and also had witnesses to attest that she was not able to raise her child. This is so nerve wracking! I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong!